You partied the night away and had a blast. Good for you! You met lots of new people and made great new contacts. You certainly don’t want to let all that great networking go to waste. Even though the party is over, your chances of finding love aren’t.
So here are 4 tips to help you find love after the party is over:
Guys, if you were lucky enough to meet one or more people you’re actually interested in getting to know better, then don’t just sit there waiting until the initial excitement dissipates. Strike while the iron is hot! (sorry for the cliche) Call, text, email, whatever — as long as your goal is to set up a date. If you’re planning on just sending flirtatious texts for the next few weeks, skip it and go drinking with your buddies. You’re not ready for a relationship, so don’t waste her time.
Keep your text or call brief and to the point. You enjoyed meeting her and would love to get together in person. Give her a choice of time and venue. Show her you’re a real man and not some indecisive man-boy looking for mama to tell him where to go and what to do.
Ladies, I’d suggest that you do not make first contact at least for a few days. If he’s interested he WILL contact you. If he doesn’t after a few days, he probably never will. But if you feel that strongly about it and you can take the pain, then send him a SHORT text letting him know you’re alive. If he takes the bait, great. If not, you’re done. Move on.
Make a list of the new people you met and friend them on Facebook. It’s an easy, non pressured and non committal way of connecting and beginning a conversation. Do this asap while they still remember who you are. Broadening your network is a great way of meeting new people and finding out about interesting events and happenings. You’ve got nothing to lose and everything to gain. (Ladies can totally friend guys)
Take some time to review the events of last night to try and figure out if there’s room for you to improve your MO. Did you perhaps come across too strong? Not strong enough? Unfriendly? Too friendly? It might help to do this exercise of self analysis with an objective friend. In my experience, there’s always room for improvement.
Meeting people at parties is awesome, but it doesn’t always work out as planned. So why not log in to Jzoog.com and broaden your horizons (and dating pool)? You’ll be able to see how many total friends the person your viewing has and if you happen to share any mutual friends who are also on Jzoog. That should give you a level of comfort you can’t get on other Jewish dating sites. Again, you’ve got nothing to lose and everything to gain. True love (or at least a date) is just a click away!