In the bible Rosh Hashanah, the Jewish new year, is called Yom Hazikaron, the day of remembering. More than just about remembering, the holiday of Rosh Hashanah is about reflecting. Reflecting on our deeds and actions of the past year in order to improve and become better people.
Despite the themes of judgement, repentance and reflection that dominate the holiday, Rosh Hashanah is first and foremost a joyous holiday when families and friends gather around festive tables and partake in delicacies that represent our hopes and prayers for a sweet and successful year. How does that festive mood reconcile with the more serious and somber themes of the day?
The answer, I think, is simple. Reflecting on our lives should not be viewed as a frustrating and depressing exercise. On the contrary, proper reflection opens up opportunities for positive change that we might otherwise not have noticed.
Take some time over the holiday to reflect on your personal dating experience over the past year, or several years. If things haven’t quite worked out for you, maybe there are some changes that you need to make? Maybe you need to reevaluate your list of requirements for a potential mate? Maybe you need to date differently, act differently, view yourself differently?
Of course, it possible that you don’t need to make any changes — you’ve done everything right but you just haven’t had any Mazal..you’re just plain unlucky. But you don’t seriously believe that, do you? Everyone has room for improvement, no matter who they are or where they are in life. It’s just not always so easy to recognize where the improvement is needed. It’s even harder to actual make the required changes.
Your challenge this Rosh Hashanah is to figure out how you can change to be better, do better, feel better, and of course, date better.
I wish you much success and blessings on your dating and relationship “journey” and hope that this new year brings you the happiness that you wish for.