The High Holiday season will begin Wednesday night with Rosh Hashanah. This time of year is meant to be stressful, but in a hopeful and exciting way. For single men and women who don’t want to be single and who are trying hard to find their mate, this can be a depressing, frustrating and anxious time. At least it was for me when I was single.
I know, here it comes right? Here’s where I tell you not to worry, it’ll all be fine, so just be happy and everything will fall into place.
Well, I’m not going to tell you that. How can I? If you feel like worrying or being sad, then you should. That’s your right, and it’s what you need to do now.
But simply worrying isn’t going to help you reach your goal. It’ll make you feel down, but it won’t help you meet your mate. In fact, it might even push you further from your goal. The sadness and frustration that you might be feeling can lead in you in two different directions: Despair or Motivation.
Despair equals hopelessness. You have no right to despair. Sadness and frustration, yes. Despair, never. Our role as Jews, and human beings, is to always keep striving to fulfill our goals and dreams. Suicide, be it physical, emotional or spiritual is unacceptable.
But sadness and frustration can motivate you to act. It can motivate you to strive a bit harder to reach your goal. That powerful negative energy can be redirected to positive action. I can’t give you a specific plan of action to implement because each of you is different and requires a custom plan. If you’ve been reading my blog posts and book you should have an idea of what you need to do. In a very general sense in includes working to find new opportunities and opening your mind to them and to opportunities that already exist which you might have passed up.
I really believe that this new Jewish year is going to be full of excitement, promise and success. But you (we) need to give it your (our) all in every way to make it happen.
Wishing you all a Shana Tova, a sweet and happy new year.