I was scrolling through my Facebook newsfeed when I can across an interesting post from a woman (I have over 1400 friends, so please don’t bother scrolling through them all to try and figure out who I’m referring to). I was surprised when her profile photo showed her holding a little boy, probably around 2 yrs old. Just her and the boy. I’m assuming the boy is her nephew, because I’m 99.99% sure she’s still single, never been married.
If I were a single man interested in meeting a nice Jewish girl, and didn’t know her, I’d entertain the following possibilities:
1. She’s married and holding her son.
I probably wouldn’t even bother clicking on the “about” link to see that her relationship status is “single”.
2. She’s divorced and holding her son.
I might be totally cool with that, or I might decide that dating a divorced woman with a young child is not for me.
3. She had a child through artificial insemination.
This scenario is getting much more common these days, even among women in the orthodox community. Some guys will be open to dating her, and some won’t. No judgement on anyone.
4. She adopted. Unlikely.
5. She’s holding someone else’s child.
I guess it shows that she likes children. That might make me think that she’ll be a great mom. Or it might make me think that she’s not really interested in meeting someone, because if she was, she wouldn’t be holding someone else’s child in her profile photo.
I know, Facebook isn’t a dating site. But it is the largest social networking site in the world, so any photo you put out there, especially your profile photo, will be representing you to a billion people, including lots of potential suitors. If you’re single and and not interested in remaining so, why in the world would you want to confuse people by holding a child that isn’t yours?
Maybe I’m missing something, so please share your thoughts and enlighten me. I really don’t get it.
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