We live fast moving lives, with no time to waste. We demand our communication, information, entertainment, and nourishment in real time, without delay. Fast food, instant meals, Youtube, Facebook, Twitter, smart phones, instant messaging…we must have exactly what we want when we want it: right now. We make decisions on the fly, in lighting speed, […]
In my last post I promised to discuss profile photos, and I will keep that promise, but it’ll have to wait another week. There’s a step in the soulmate searching process that comes before profiles and is vitally more important. If you’re trying to meet your soulmate through the good offices of an intermediary, such […]
Last week I wrote about the importance of first impressions. This week, as promised, I’d like to extend the discussion to the world of cyberspace, specifically: your online dating profile. Yes, I know how amazing it would be to simply meet a guy or gal in person, in a relaxed setting, and have everything effortlessly […]
Your first impression of someone usually serves as the basis for how you subsequently view, think of, and interact with, them. The wonderful world of dating is no exception. That first impression you make will define you in the minds of all the potential soulmates that you meet. It will stick around to haunt you […]
I’ve heard so many people complain about the awkwardness of sitting across a table in a dimly lit restaurant from someone you barely know, struggling to make conversation, that I feel the need to tackle this seemingly traumatic experience. My initial reaction is that the problem is not really the setting, it’s the interaction. I’m […]
Have you ever observed a fly trying to get out of a room through an open window? The fly will often continue banging into the glass, when all it has to do is move just an inch to the side to set itself free. A mentor of mine pointed this out to me to make […]
Last time I discussed dealbreakers that need to be carefully evaluated to determine if they’re realistic. In most cases, they are not, and should be pushed aside to allow you to move forward in your search for happiness and soulmate bliss. Now I need to tell you about dealbreakers that I believe are very real, […]
When I ask daters what they are looking for in a mate, I usually get answers like “someone nice, “a good person,” or “someone with a good heart”. Great answers, but probably not truthful. When I follow up by asking what their deal breakers (dealbreakers) are, the responses begin to sound a lot more convincing. […]
This week I’d like to answer a couple of questions sent in by a serious dater who wants to know, “when to be exclusive with just one person, and how to politely say no thank you, especially when you will see that person in future social situations, perhaps in shul tomorrow, etc etc, or its […]
Every serious dater is eager to make that soul connection, but sometimes, that eagerness can actually destroy any chance you might have had with your potential mate. I’m vehemently against game playing for serious daters, but I must be realistic and admit that sometimes, you need to be a bit of a gamester to achieve […]
Nobody wants to be trapped in the Friend Zone. Let me explain. When you really want to date someone, but instead end up being the one they call to recount the details of their latest date, you are firmly entrenched in the friend zone. There’s nothing wrong with being friends with a member of the […]
Attracting potential soulmates is tough. Let’s face it, lots of big city singles are looking for models and super studs. So, how’s a nice, normal guy or gal supposed to compete? Well, you probably can’t, and shouldn’t. What I mean is if your object of attraction has their radar set solely on snagging a super […]