To help our users get the most out of online dating, we decided to get advice from the experts: professional matchmakers and dating coaches. We asked them 8 questions that we hope will give you some guidance in preparing an awesome online profile and succeeding in finding love online.
Our expert today is Michelle Frankel, owner of NYCity Matchmaking and a matchmaker right here on Jzoog. Michelle’s answers follow each question.
1.What are the first 3 questions men ask about potential dating partners?
– Why is she single
– Is she cute
– Is she drama free
2. What are the first 3 questions women ask about potential dating partners?
-Why is he single
-How tall is he
-Is he employed/financially secure
3. What part of an online profile do you think is the most important for men? Women?
PICTURES (for both Men and Women). NYCityMatchmaking works with an amazing photographer. Having “Natural” yet Professional photos taken is the #1 investment you can make for online dating success.
4. Is it ok for women to message men first?
Absolutely- but it should be concise, creative and specific to the person you are emailing. The generic – “I liked your profile” is not effective.
5.What are some big mistakes men make on their online profiles?
Negativity. No one wants to meet someone who has a negative attitude about dating or online dating. Save that for the shrink. Your profile should convey optimism. Also lying about your height won’t get you too far. Women will figure it out as soon as you meet in-person. Be honest and upfront.
6.What are some big mistakes women make on their online profiles?
Lying about their age. The truth is going to be revealed so you might as well be honest from the get go. I can appreciate women wanting to alter their age to come up in searches. Nonetheless, you still should always be honest and reveal your true age somewhere in your profile.
7. Would you share an online dating success story you’ve been involved in?
NYCity Matchmaking has helped 100s of people succeed on line. Through Profile Makeovers and new Photos- this past year we have helped many meet their Beshert online with 5 becoming engaged. Sometimes you need an objective fresh eye to review and give your profile the edge it needs to stand out.
8. What’s one piece of advice you’d share with all those looking for love online?
It is a marathon not a sprint. I ultimately met my husband online but I did online dating for years and went on more dates than I can recall. Don’t get frustrated or give-up.
Open up your parameters. Your perfect partner may be an inch shorter or taller than your search parameters. Throw out that check list… you may surprise yourself who you really connect with.
(oops I guess that is 2 pieces of advice)
Thanks Michelle for your super helpful insights and advice!
You can contact Michelle here.
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